#1225: “My boyfriend is very reactive to conversations about feelings.”
Hello, I’ve (she/her) been dating my boyfriend (he/him) for one year now, we are both in our late 20s and sadly both still living with our families due to student debt. For context, we also both have...
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It Came From The Search Terms: September Song
It’s time for the thing where we pretend the search terms people typed into their computers before they landed on this place are actual questions. Context is missing; that’s kind of the point. Let’s...
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“We Are Spartacus!”: Open Thread & Resources On Family Estrangement And Adult...
Whenever I write about difficult parent stuff (like yesterday) my inbox immediately gets filled with more difficult parent and family estrangement stuff, which makes sense because, people find out they...
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Linkety Links + “We need to talk” vs. “Hey, knock it off” conflict management...
Image: Cover of Amazons, Abolitionists, and Activists by Mikki Kendall and A. D’Amico Good news, Mikki Kendall’s beautiful book, Amazons, Abolitionists, and Activists: A Graphic History Of Women’s...
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#1236: “My ex keeps gnawing at the edges of my work and social life.”
Behind a cut for mention of consent violations. Hi Captain, I (she/her) divorced my ex (he/him) a year ago. There were a lot of reasons, but one reason was constant sexual pressure to perform and do...
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#1237: “What to do about deliberately bad gifts?” A post about letting go of...
Hi! I am 28, she/her. My sister in law (“A”) is also 28 and my brother (“D”) is 31. I have a question about gift etiquette. Last year on my birthday, A and D gave me a bunch of used DVDs. They got me...
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It Came From The Search Terms: Cold November Wind
It’s time for the monthly feature where I answer the things people typed into their search engine before they wound up here as if they are questions. These come in completely anonymously and...
View Article#1208: “Scripts for when a friend’s art scares you.”
Hi Captain, Low-stakes question here. I (she/her) have an old, dear friend (she/her) who has recently taken up a new art form. From my limited experience, it seems like she’s really good at it! But the...
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2019’s Most-Viewed Posts
Thank you all for the kind words and end-of-year donations and patronage that have flowed in over the last week or so. I’ve been traveling and kind of made a point about not touching my laptop for a...
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#1246: “Partner with lots of expenses and little income.”
Hey Captain Awkward. I read some of your responses to other writers who had concerns about their partners’ finances, and I feel like this is related but not quite the same. I’m stressed about my...
View ArticleFamily Estrangement and Personal Bandwidth: A Request
Hello lovely readers! Whenever I write about family estrangement, setting boundaries with family members, difficult parents, etc. a) I’m usually answering a bunch of letters in one, if that makes...
View Article#1249: Parents who are no contact (with each other) at our wedding.
Hey Captain, I (she/her) am getting married in May! Besides all the awful that is wedding planning, my fiancé (he/him) and I are excited and happy to celebrate this milestone. His parents had a short,...
View ArticleTwo internet advice columnists walk into a bar: Captain Awkward & Ask A...
My combined Christmas/birthday present this year was a trip to Washington, D.C. to catch up with some very old friends who were managing to be both in the same country and the same city all at the same...
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Ask A Manager & Captain Awkward Answer Questions: Part 2 of 2
Here is the second post in this week’s collaboration between Jennifer P. from CaptainAwkward.com and Alison Green from Ask A Manager. Previously On: “Is it disloyal to leave a company who cut my pay...
View Article#1250: How do I support my (very-recently) ex-partner through his complex grief?
Content note: Mention of suicide Dear Captain Awkward 2 weeks ago my boyfriend (he/him/his) of 2 years made the decision to break up with me (cis/female). I moved out of our shared house and back with...
View Article#1255: “I’ve been conscripted! As an unwilling beta reader of somebody’s very...
Dear Captain Awkward: Well, not exactly. First, some background: I (she/her) am a member of a Face Book group for fan-fiction readers and writers. I’m a longtime writer of both original work and fan...
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#1256: Boundaries and parenting, when the adult child might be the problem
Dear Captain, I have read and enjoyed your advice site for several years and appreciate all the work and thought you put into each situation and your response. That being said, as someone who is on the...
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#1257:”How do I navigate the transition between romantic relationship and...
Dear Captain, I had a friend I first met about 15 years ago. We got on amazingly well: mutual friends called us “one mind in two bodies” because our personalities were so similar. We understood each...
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COVID-19 Update & Questions #1258 (How do I help my friends?) and #1259:...
Hello, readers, thanks for your emails, your support, and your questions in this time of global pandemic. How’s everybody doing? (Yes, I know the first iteration misspelled COVID as Corvid, I ravens...
View ArticleTwo Answers to Many Questions: COVID-19, Crushes, and Closure
Answer 1: On Crushes So, you have a crush on a friend.* But everything is terrible/uncertain/stressful. Send the love poem. Say the thing that’s in your heart. If not now, when? What’s the worst that...
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