#1389: “I am taking over a course from a professor who died. How should I...
"Hello, I wouldn't be here if your actual professor hadn't died. Who's ready to LEARN?"
View Article#1390: My wife wants a divorce but I don’t want to go to court.
Think of a lawyer as a divorce expert who takes care of business so you can take care of feelings.
View Article#1392: Doom or Consequences? The Case of The Transmisogynist Missing...
"They bite, and are a total asshole with no home training, but I love them anyway" is for adorable cats you adopt out of the trash, not for friends. And when friends come over, those cats go in a nice...
View Article#1393: “How can I stop other women from hating on me for my happy life?”
Do you want friends, as in autonomous human beings, or do you want an app that provides daily affirmations and asks no questions?
View Article#1394, #1395, and #1396: Crush Stories
The candy is half-price the flowers are wilting, and in my inbox some sweet folks are a-jilting. My manuscript's growing, my brain needs a break, so time for some letters about hope and heartbreak.
View Article#1398: “Help, I’m falling in love with a non-single man!”
Crushes are powerful, but they don't actually require action on anyone's part.
View Article#1401: Running into a former teacher after an awkward breakup
I'm still deep in book-drafting mode and on a deadline, but enjoy this question about running into somebody that you used to know.
View Article#1402: “I need a script for inviting someone to my bachelorette party but NOT...
As "no exes at the wedding" stories go, this one does not pass the smell test, sorry.
View Article#1403: “What’s a script for relatives who might be hurt finding out that...
Coming out to relatives isn't about the feelings of straight people!
View Article#1405: How do I stop giving rides to someone I don’t like?
Advice for when you've been doing a favor you don't want to do for a person you don't like for ten consecutive years.
View Article#1408: “I’m worried my baby will be the nail in the coffin for my friendship.”
We don't all have to make the same choices our friends do, but we do have to give them room to make theirs. Updated since posted.
View Article#1409: “Help, my best friend and her boyfriend are an incredibly annoying...
Sometimes all you can do about an annoying thing is to plan to remove yourself from future annoying events. More commiseration than advice in this one.
View Article#1412: “My boyfriend’s mom banned us from having sex.”
You can't set boundaries with his mother for him, but you can set your own.
View Article#1413: “My mom is furious that I’m not celebrating my birthday with her.”
That thing where you did everything technically right but it still feels very awkward? Sorry to be the one to break this to you, but sometimes this is as good as it gets.
View Article#1414: “How do you have a relationship conversation with someone who says you...
'Tis the season to stop making plans around people who are not planning around you.
View Article#1415: “How do I know when a slow fade has worked?”
Depends on what you mean by "worked" and who it was supposed to work on.
View Article#1418: “Need to convince my ex-husband to have my babies.”
There are bad ideas, and then there is whatever is happening here.
View ArticleThe Return of The Search Terms: Black Dove (January)
What are people typing into search engines that leads them here? Let's find out.
View Article#1421: “How do I be a parent if I never really had one? And how do I not be...
In which I attempt to reverse-engineer parenting advice from all the letters about setting boundaries with difficult family members. LEEEEEROY JENKINSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!
View Article#1424: “My sister shouts at her boyfriend and I hate it!”
Reacting or overreacting? Probably depends on what we're reacting to.
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